January 17, 2023

Today statistics claim that about one in four adults has some form of depression or another. However, one in four adults do not seek help to treat the signs of depression. Far too many ignore the symptoms and the signs and unfortunately, in some cases this can lead to tragic consequences. Why is it then that so many ignore even the most obvious signs of depression when help is just a phone call away? Let’s explore that issue to see if any of these reasons might explain why you personally might be ignoring the signs of depression and what you can do about them. And men, I know the thought of therapy is frightening, but there is a way through.

Gender Stigma

Even in our modern, enlightened times men are still sometimes expected to be a particular way when it comes to emotions. They are often told to “buck up” and that it’s just not very masculine to worry about your emotions and feelings. This means that many men ignore the signs of depression because they’re afraid of what other men might think. If they have a hard time coping with feelings of sadness, guilt, low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, and fear, they are usually prone to just swallow these feelings and ignore them. Unfortunately, these signs of depression can become very severe and interfere with a man’s performance at work, his relationships at home, and with every other part of his life.

Social Stigma

Men and women may assume that if they admit to any signs of depression then they will face social stigma from those around them. This stigma might include anyone at work that comes into contact with their insurance information or friends and family that may hear about their treatment. They may mistakenly assume that depression is a form of weakness or a character flaw, and if they think this way they often reason that others will think this way as well. They may have been raised in a home where signs of depression in others were mocked and ridiculed, or were told that psychiatrists were all “quacks” and that anyone that was depressed simply needed to snap out of it.

Afraid of Treatment

Some also ignore the signs of depression for the same reason they ignore the signs of other healthy problems – they’re afraid of what the doctor will tell them. If they ignore the problem, then the problem just doesn’t exist, or so they tell themselves. They may also be afraid of how they need to treat the signs of depression, assuming that they’ll need to sit in a group therapy session and share embarrassing stories of their childhood.

Whatever the reasons, it’s never a good idea to ignore the signs of depression. If left unchecked depression can lead to even more serious problems with one’s physical health and personal relationships. Some have even lost their jobs because of the unchecked symptoms. So if you think you have any signs of depression then it’s important to talk to your doctor right away.

If you think you have depression then lets talk, contact me for a no-obligation chat.

For urgent support call your doctor or contact one of the numbers below.

Support Services

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

The Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202 (to talk to a trained counsellor about how you are feeling or to ask any questions).

Youthline – 0800 376 633, free text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz or online chat.

The Lowdown Text 5626 for support to help young people recognise and understand depression or anxiety.

Alcohol Drug Helpline (0800 787 797)

Does any of this resonate with you? 

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