IFS TRAINED -INDIVIDUAL AND COUPLE THERAPIST
When the Same Conversations Keep Repeating
Couples therapy for partners who feel stuck in patterns of conflict, distance, or misunderstanding — and want to understand what’s really happening between them.
Online sessions · UK, Europe, New Zealand, Australia, Middle East & US
You May Be Here Because…
- Arguments go in circles and nothing really changes
- One of you feels unheard, the other overwhelmed or shut down
- There’s distance, tension, or exhaustion in the relationship
- You love each other, but something feels brittle or unsustainable
- You’re afraid of what might happen if things don’t shift
It’s Usually Not About the Argument
Most couples come focused on the surface issue — communication, conflict, or a specific event.
More often, what’s driving the difficulty is a repeating relational pattern shaped by stress, attachment needs, and long-standing ways of coping.
Common dynamics include:
- Over-functioning and withdrawal
- Pursuing and distancing
- Taking responsibility for stability while longing for support
These patterns protect the relationship in the short term — but erode connection over time.
The Cost of Holding It Together
Many couples are outwardly functional — parenting, working, managing life — while the relationship quietly carries strain.
Underneath is often:
- Fear of burdening the other
- Fear of being “too much”
- Fear that softening will lead to rejection or chaos
Neither partner is the problem.
The pattern is.
Creating Space for Something Different
The work here focuses on slowing down rather than pushing through.
Early in the work, couples often notice:
- Slower, more contained conversations
- Less blame and defensiveness
- Clearer understanding of what’s happening underneath reactions
Over time, this can lead to:
- Greater emotional safety
- More honest communication
- Reduced reactivity
- A renewed sense of connection and choice
The goal isn’t to assign fault — it’s to understand and shift the pattern you’re both caught in.
How I Work With Couples
I work in a calm, structured, and relational way — helping both partners feel seen without taking sides.
The focus is on:
- Understanding the dynamic between you
- Making sense of emotional responses
- Creating space for repair and reconnection
Many couples say the work feels containing rather than confrontational, and more helpful than trying to “talk things out” alone.
We kept having the same arguments for years. Therapy helped us understand the pattern underneath and reconnect in a way that finally felt real.”
Couple, International Clients
A Simple Next Step
If you’re unsure whether this is the right time
Many people reach out when something feels unsustainable — but still hesitate, wondering if it’s “enough” to justify therapy.
A short conversation is often the easiest way to get clarity without committing to anything.
No obligation · Just a conversation
Husband, father, counsellor and therapist— based in Zurich, Switzerland. Working online with couples and professionals across Europe, USA, Australia and New Zealand. In-person sessions available in Zurich. Helping with relationship stress, anxiety, and the cost of always holding it together — using Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Couples therapy in Switzerland
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