Nine times out of ten, one person in the relationship reaches out to me first. Not both. One partner has been thinking about it for weeks, maybe months,

I had a client tell me recently that he avoids calling his own grandparents — people he loves more than almost anyone — and he couldn’t understand why.

When I was 13, my parents were living in Tonga. They decided the best school for me was in Wellington, New Zealand. So I was going to boarding

“Where are you from?” For most people it’s small talk. For me it has always been a small trapdoor. I can feel myself working out which answer this